It was narrated by Abu Huraira that The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “The most perfect believer in respect of faith is he who is best of them in manners.” (Abu Dawood)
There can’t be a Muslim on this Earth who deep down inside doesn’t want to be a better human being. The core of Islam is based on good behaviour and it teaches Muslims to conduct excellent behaviour and manners and it ranks highly in the sight of Allah (SWT).
As the behaviour and conduct of a human being is important to Allah (SWT) and how He sees us, then it is very important for Muslims to spend every day of their lives trying to be people of good characteristics.
It goes without a doubt that us human beings fallible but by changing few things in our lifestyle and how we look at things can bring us closer to Allah (SWT). Following are some of the points that can improve our behaviour as Muslims.
Live According to The Teachings of Islam
When A’isha (RA) was asked about the Prophet (SAW)’s manners, she responded that his manners was the Qur’an.
What we can understand from the above mentioned statement is that we need to spend our lives according to the teachings of the Holy Quran. Being a Muslim we have a role model in the form of Prophet Muhammad (P.B.U.H). So the life of the Holy Prophet (P.B.U.H) is the guiding light for Muslims on how the life you be spent and what sort of behaviour or characteristics should a Muslim posses to be a good human being.
Being a Muslim it is an obligation upon us to follow the orders of Allah (SWT) and if Allah (SWT) forbids us from doing something, it is part of our good manners and behaviour to stay away from it. It is part of the Islamic teachings that we adopt good manners and become good human beings. It is necessary for Muslims to practice patience in their lives so that we could become one of those from whom Allah (SWT) is pleased with on the day of judgement.
Treat Every Creation Kindly
Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, “Verily Allah has prescribed Ihsan (kindness) for everything. So when you kill, you must make the killing in the best manner; when you slaughter, make your slaughter in the best manner. Let one of you sharpen his knife and give ease to his animal (in order to reduce his pain).” (Riyad us-Saliheen)
No one likes a ill mannered person or speaks harshly to them or bullies them. The Messenger of Allah (SWT), Prophet Muhammad (P.B.U.H) tells us to treat the animals kindly, so to treat humans and other creations kindly becomes necessary for us.
The thing about good manners and being among the the people who walk the path of righteousness is that they don’t hurt feelings of others is any ways and behave with others in a way described by Allah (sWT). Some people hurt others and disrespect them due to their sense of authority or their status, but for a true Muslim, he treats everyone justly and no harm comes from him to his loved ones or to strangers as well.
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, “The dearest and nearest among you to me on the Day of Resurrection will be one who is the best of you in manners; and the most abhorrent among you to me and the farthest of you from me will be the pompous, the garrulous, and Al-Mutafaihiqun.” The Companions asked him: “O Messenger of Allah! We know about the pompous and the garrulous, but we do not know who Al-Mutafaihiqun are.” He replied: “The arrogant people.” (Riyad us-Saliheen)
Seek Feedback About Yourself
It is necessary for a person to seek feedback from others on their behaviour and how they treat others. Be it your spouse, children, parents or friends, one must seek feedback from others. If they give a positive feedback on your behaviour one should not relax but try to improve himself more according to the teachings of Islam and seek Allah (SWT) at the every moment of their life, and if the feedback her or she received is negative, it becomes mandatory for him or her to drastically improve himself according to the teachings of Islam.
We all know it is a bitter pill to swallow if someone gives a negative feedback about our behaviour. It is also necessary for to listen what others have to say about our overall behaviour and how can we improve on it to make ourselves a better human being and most importantly a better Muslim. It is always not necessary that the feedback given by others is always right, they might have a negative perspective about you and in that case you need to sit down with them and explain why their feedback is not correct instead of arguing with them.
The other upside of seeking feedback from others is that it helps in improving the communication between you and others. Being a good Muslim and to have good manners or behaviour it is necessary to maintain a healthy relationship with people who are close to you and with those who are not directly connected with you as well.
When we dream of being the ‘perfect’ Muslim, we may dream of being memorizers of the Qur’an. We may wish that we have millions of dollars to end world hunger or to buy our loved ones the most fabulous gifts. Sometimes though, what takes us closer to being this ‘perfect’ Muslim is improving on our behavior.
Mu’adh (bin Jabal) (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) held my hand and said, “O Mu’adh, By Allah, I love you and advise you not to miss supplicating after every Salat (prayer) saying: ‘Allahumma a’inni ‘ala dhikrika wa shukrika, wa husni ‘ibadatika,’ (O Allah, help me remember You, expressing gratitude to You and worship You in the best manner)”. (Riyad us-Saliheen)